Recently I caught up with an Aunty from long ago and we crafted and chatted together. It was well overdue and so lovely to discover mutual love for craft. After she returned to Aussie, she emailed me. I have asked her permission to share her story because it moved me so much. I am so proud of you Aunty Linda xx And so pleased that craft had a part in changing your life xx
I have since started a Meet Up group Sewing Just Got Sewcial
|Mum, Me & Aunty Linda + mucho crochet!|
My sister was concerned that I was getting “too comfortable” at home and not getting out and about with other people, and she suggested I join a group. But what could I join? I wasn’t really interested in anything - couldn’t be bothered going to the gym.
I had had several years suffering in the depths of Depression and after realising I was not “right”, went to the Doctor and am on medication. That was several years ago and I am coping much better now, but still I sometimes feel that to get out and about it’s all just “too hard”, “too scary”.
I had taken up knitting and crochet again after many years and my sister mentioned that in her city they have a “Knit & Natter” group that meets at a café, so I Googled and found “Meetup” groups … and joined one. That was a afternoon and soon after, I “RSVP’d” to attend the next day. Then … I had a hot flush and my heart was pounding … ”Where do I go”, “where do I park”, “where will I go when I get there” (it is in a Pub in an unfamiliar suburb). But … I went along.
I decided to use the same skills that the psychologist talked to me about for travelling - If I didn’t know where to go, I would ask someone. And the lady I had spoken on the had rung the “Host” and she was there early to look out for me.
There were just five of us and we just sat around talking and knitting. Very pleasant. I ‘shouted’ myself a glass of bubbly (I told them) “to celebrate my big adventure driving to the other side of town” but really … it was because “I DID IT!!!” And my darling Partner had a bottle of bubbly in the fridge for when I got home - he knew it was a “big” thing for me. Isn’t he wonderful!
And the second week … for the first that I can remember … I actually looked fwd to going again - rather than just being anxious about it. A big first for me. That week one of the ladies brought a copy of a hat pattern for me, and two hats to show us the design, so that was lovely. If she hadn’t thought I was nice, she wouldn’t have bothered!
I am getting back to doing things with less stress so that is a big step fwd. A few years ago I wouldn’t have done something new like that, where I didn’t know anyone, and now I’m soooooo pleased I did.
To anyone out there who is feeling alone or thinking “I don’t know anyone”, take the first step and you might be very pleasantly surprised. Knitting, crocheting, sewing and crafting with like-minded people is really enjoyable and we learn a bit from each other.